One of our patients shared this with me this afternoon:
“Growing up, I was never asked, “Aren’t you finished grieving yet?” Rather, they would say, “Have you grieved enough? Have you cried enough?”
For the Dagara tribe of Burkina Faso in West Africa, we see that in life it is necessary to grieve those things that no longer serve us, and let them go. It is so important to have ways to release these pains, to keep clearing ourselves. Hanging on to old pain just makes it grow until it smothers our creativity, our joy, and our ability to connect with others. It may even kill us.
… Communal grieving offers something we cannot get when we grieve alone. Through validation, acknowledgement and witnessing, communal grieving allows us to experience a level of healing that is deeply and profoundly freeing. Each of us has a basic Human right to that genuine love, happiness and freedom.”