After all the initial excitement of getting engaged, there is so much to think about when planning a wedding and things can become pretty intense. Of course every bride wants to look and feel their best on their wedding day but the sad thing is that many feel that they need to be ‘thin’ or ‘thinner’ to fit in with the expectations of today’s society in order to be that picture perfect bride. There really is no need to comply and give in to this pressure though.
Think about it; your partner fell in love with you for who you are, not because of your shape or size. They accept and love you for all your flaws. Why change yourself, how you look and start dieting now? Losing weight will not make you any happier and it does not cure negative body image. You would just be adding unnecessary stress on yourself.
Self compassion is a neglected but crucial aspect of what it means to be a happy human being.
If you want to have a fulfilled and happy life, then first you must be kind and compassionate to yourself. You can learn to love your body if you can accept and love yourself as a person.
Everybody has body insecurities and feel happier and more comfortable in some styles of clothes more than others. The same applies when choosing a wedding outfit. Rather than thinking you need to lose weight, try on different styles, brands and fabrics of outfit. There will be some that you do not feel comfortable in or are not flattering as they highlight the particular body part you dislike. If on a particular day you can’t find your outfit, then walk away, give it a bit of time and then try shopping for it again. Don’t get upset. I promise you, you will find that special outfit. Beauty is a state of mind, not a state of body. You are already beautiful.
Your wedding day should be one of the happiest days of your life.
It is important that you feel comfortable to express yourself and be true to who you are. Just remember that different people have different opinions and tastes in style so although you may want them to, not everybody may like your choice of wedding outfit. That doesn’t matter. Besides that, not all styles suit everybody so it doesn’t matter what size you actually are. Your opinion of yourself is the only one that really matters. You are already enough.
Your body is not the focus of your wedding.
You will look amazing on your wedding day, no matter how much you weigh or what size you are. Our bodies are a physical manifestation of how we feel internally so when we feel good on the inside we can look good on the outside. Your inner radiance will shine through and that happiness and love you feel will truly be in the air as you enjoy your special day.
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