Author – Lucy Bonner
It is so important to focus on what we could add to our lives in order to feel more content and fulfilled. We’ve put together a list of suggestions that you might want to consider yourself.
- Make time for yourself
We live in a demanding world where everything is done at the speed of light and many of us rarely take time to just ‘stop and be’. Taking 15 minutes out of your day to care and nurture yourself is important to contributing to your general sense of peace and wellbeing. Have a think about what feels good…it might be painting your nails, having a bath, reading a book or meditating. This time allows us to check in with ourselves and to be present in what could otherwise be a hectic and whirlwind of a day.
- Set up a self care exchange with friends
Gather a group of your friends and start a self care exchange. Write down what each of you are good at or enjoy doing, baking, photography, massage etc. Then exchange each others offerings so you each gain a self care item that another person will do for you at an agreed time. A self-care exchange also allows us to connect with the people closest to us in a meaningful way.
- Use the fresh air!
Stepping outside for two minutes and turning your face to the sky can make us feel like a new person. Fresh air is a brilliant way to clear your head and de stress. If you ever find yourself in a stressful situation do your best to remove yourself from it to the outdoors. Nature is always the easiest environment to aid us to connect with ourselves and to breathe.
- Reflect every evening
Every night, think about the three most important aspects of your life. These could be people, things, opportunities and so on. This will help you to counteract the common tendency to spend time focusing on what you don’t have or haven’t achieved and allow you to nurture a sense of gratitude for all you do have. If we want to draw more positive energy into our lives then we must focus on exactly that.
- Post a smiley face on your bathroom mirror
Every time you go into your bathroom this will be the first thing you see. It will become a reminder to “silence the internal critic.” This is the voice of doom and gloom and guilt that occurs in your thinking. Optimistic thinking can be learned as you start to see that problems are solvable rather than permanent and problematic.
“If you look to others for fulfilment, you will never be truly fulfilled.”
People are increasingly not going to bed early enough to get a good night’s sleep before the next day starts. As out lives become more demanding we end up compromising on our ability to function the following day and our mental and physical health generally. To help you get a good night’s sleep, try to keep your bedtime routine the same every day. This includes giving yourself enough time to wind down in the evenings before bed and time to get up at your own pace in the morning. This will dramatically increase the quality of your sleep.
- Stress and Anxiety management
One of the most important aspects of self-care is being able to manage your stress. There are some rituals that can be incorporated into your routine to help deal with stress and anxiety.
- Ensure you have a playlist of ‘mood shifters’ to listen to whenever you need to create a feeling of peace, light-heartedness or motivation. Music is an excellent prompt to help us to keep going when we feel we want to turn toward the darkness.
- Smell is also a way of inducing relax feeling and thought. Candles, essential oils and incense can also to remind us that stress is often the result of perspective rather than the ‘problem’ itself.
- If you have favourite artwork or photos hang these around our bedroom or house in places which will allow them to be seen. The best places are those where you will see them every day. At the clinic we keep positive visuals posted on every wall to remind our clients of the potential that they have.
Every day when you wake up try and dedicate five minutes to recall what you did yesterday that you would like to improve on today. Maybe you feel that you did not speak to friends or family enough, maybe you regret not spending enough time on self-care, maybe it is something as simple as you would’ve liked to have a long bath not a rushed shower. By pondering on these thoughts you will allow yourself to improve your journey today.
- Accept what you have
Sometimes acceptance of our current circumstances can give us the space and courage that we need in order to make changes and to move forward. There are some things that you can’t change and cant help but feeling but we can chose to be mindful, to observe thoughts and not necessarily ‘react’ to them.
These days it seems that everyone is glued to their phone, laptop or ipad. We often see people sitting having a meal together whilst still looking at their phones. Although phones and social media can have a positive impact on our lives they can also be detrimental. Being fully present with people that you chose to share your time with is a gift to both you and to them.