In light of the news of the pandemic, our clinic is currently closed. We have spent the past few weeks preparing for this and thinking about how we can best support our clients and staff in these challenging times, and have decided to run all of our groups and one to one sessions remotely. We didn’t know if or how that was going to work, but each and every one of our clients are just being the bravest, most courageous, most amazing versions of themselves right now. Our clinical team and the entire community at the clinic have been incredible, so we wanted to start by saying thank you so much to them.
We are still available on email: email@example.com and over on Instagram and Twitter, and we will be continuing to bring you regular content here on our blog too. Whether you’re already on your recovery journey or are ready to start yours, we’ll be here for you.
We’re all in this together.
You are going to get through this, just like you’ve got through everything else.
Coronavirus IS a legitimate fear. Lots of things are legitimate fears but what anxiety does is it holds us hostage and creates catastrophic thinking in our minds that is super unhelpful to us. Nobody is going through life saying that nothing difficult or challenging ever happens to any of us – it does – but it’s how we respond to those challenges that is key for all of us and how we choose to focus and channel our energy throughout these challenging experiences.
I wanted to use this post to reach out to you – the extended members of our community who may be suffering with mental health issues right now – and remind you of what you’ve survived in life so far. You are incredibly strong. It’s easy when we feel afraid and there is so much uncertainty, to lose sight of who we really are so this is just to encourage you to remember all you’ve achieved and how wonderful you are. When we go through these difficult experiences we can take that opportunity to turn inward and discover things about ourselves that we had perhaps forgotten or didn’t realise we were capable of.
I am currently in self isolation as a member of my immediate family has been exposed to the virus so if that’s you and you’re feeling scared, just know that you’re not alone and that somebody out there understands a little bit what you might be going through. I’m at home with my husband and both of my children, one of whom has got symptoms, and I could be worrying a lot about that. I’m not sure what’s going to happen or how long all this is going to last, but I do know that I don’t remember the last time I was at home during the day on a Wednesday with all of them, so I’ve taken the opportunity today to try and spend time with them, to nurture them and spend time doing things for them and for me that perhaps ordinarily I wouldn’t get to do.
When we’re worried about anything, we spend a lot of our time ruminating and focusing all of our attention on what it is that we’re scared of. When we do that our fears and worries grow and they become completely overwhelming, as does our anxiety. We should and can actually use this as an opportunity to reconnect with our inner selves and nurture ourselves, to remind us of what it is we might be grateful for. In doing so, it helps us to shift our focus away from what it is we don’t want onto what we do and what feels good. That immediately starts to make us feel a little bit better.
Reaching out to other people that you know might be feeling lonely or you know might be really struggling or feeling in need, can also be extremely self-healing. The biggest healing I did was through helping other people. In being present for them, knowing that I had to show up and be there for others, really helped me to prioritise my own self-care which could sound counterintuitive but really it isn’t. We grow and heal so much through giving love to others.
“I’m terrified of being in self-isolation and gaining weight”
When is your eating disorder never not scared of gaining weight? Your eating disorder will look at every opportunity and every change to get you to worry about weight gain. The current situation provides the perfect, seemingly legitimate reason to worry and feel scared.
What you need to remember is that it’s your eating disorder trying to manipulate a scenario in order to control you and your behaviours. Keep up your mindfulness, keep on noticing when that ill voice is really strong and turn your attention toward being compassionate and asking for help.
Some of our clients have been thrown by the fact that we have been offering remote support because it’s difficult – it’s difficult looking at yourself, it’s difficult knowing that you are being seen by others – but what is important to remember is that your eating disorder loves and perpetuates that fear, keeping us trapped in a place of isolation. It’s through connection with others that we gain strength and it’s through feeling the love and care of others that we start to heal ourselves.
Three pieces of advice for you to take away:
1. If you are somewhere finding it difficult to reach out and accept support from others, then try to be a little bit brave. Try and focus on the feeling of connecting with another person and allowing people to help you if you have that resource available.
2. If you’re wondering how you can feel a little bit better then reach out to somebody else in need and see if that provides the shift you are looking for.
3. If you’re alone or even if you’re not but are around people who perhaps are difficult, challenging or triggering for you, try and turn your attention to what feels good and what feels nurturing because in that we can find an awful lot of comfort. That might mean staying away from the news and social media, or making sure what you are consuming is coming from trustworthy sources like the World Health Organisation, NHS and government.
Stay safe and be kind.
Sending you love,