Author – Laura Muth
It is natural to be critical of ourselves every once in a while, and this can sometimes serve as a motivator for self-improvement. However too often, we let simple mistakes dominate our lives, leaving us with that crippling feeling of not being good enough.
Even the smallest, most harmless mistakes can really knock our confidence. Our minds become consumed with “If only I had remembered to do that”, or “If only I hadn’t said that”, or even “If only I wasn’t so stupid”. These types of thoughts are extremely detrimental and we can quickly find ourselves stuck in a cycle of negativity and critical inner talk.
But what if we were able to stop beating ourselves up over mistakes? What if we found it easy to forgive ourselves? And how can we possibly get to that point?
To accept yourself and not challenge your inherent character is something truly healing.
That one simple sounding word which is so difficult to apply to ourselves. When we’re self-accepting, we are able to embrace every part of ourselves, not just the positive. We recognize our weaknesses, but don’t let them overwhelm us. After all, we are only human, we will make mistakes, and that’s ok.
Dwelling on bad decisions you’ve made only allows those decision to keep defining you. Forgive yourself and move on.
It is far easier to forgive others, than to forgive yourself. If our friend made the same mistake, we wouldn’t resent them, so why is it different when it comes to us? Letting go of our mistakes and forgiving ourselves will bring freedom. Start by saying affirmations to yourself, such as ‘I forgive myself’ or ‘I allow myself to make mistakes’. Even if you don’t quite believe them, it will help you slowly let go of the guilt and self-loathing.
You can’t live a positive life with a negative mind.
It is natural to dwell on the negative aspects of your life, and overlook the positive ones. Despite completing 5 tasks successfully, it is much easier to fixate on the 1 where we made a mistake. Next time you beat yourself up, make a list of everything you got right, or every positive quality about yourself. Ask a friend for inspiration if you get stuck.
Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, only this time more wisely.
If you consider mistakes as a great opportunity to learn, you will stop beating yourself up. Life involves a constant process of self-improvement and mistakes are unfortunately, completely unavoidable. Reconsider mistakes as an opportunity to discover what you need to work on in the future.
Next time you notice that you are beating yourself up, stop for a moment and become aware of how detrimental this is. Our challenge to you is to start allowing yourself to be imperfect, make mistakes, learn from them, and move on.